I'm certain that every parent on this planet has had the "do as I say, not as I do," talk with their child. I've known, since my child was born, that it was bound to happen. The thing is, I didn't expect it to happen so soon. But, of course, my child never ceases to amaze me, and as always, she threw me a real curveball in the car the other day...
"When I grow up, I'm going to have two kids - one girl and one boy. But, I'm gonna make sure and have the girl before I get married!"
I'm sure my eyes were the size of saucers as the words came out of her mouth, and I stammered, trying to find the words to respond to her.
"Uhmm...why are you planning on having her before you get married, sweetie?"
"So that she can be my flower girl!"
I paused a moment and shook my head, quickly explaining to my wedding-minded child that you do not, in fact, need a child to be your flower girl. I explained to her that most people will ask their cousins, neices, nephews, or even children of friends to be their flower girls. She thought about it for a long moment before speaking again.
"But...you had me and you aren't married."
Yep. There it is. I kind of had a feeling it was coming, as soon as I told her having a kid before getting married wasn't the best idea. So, I began explaining to her that being a parent is very hard - and that being a single parent is even harder (and extremely expensive). I thought I made a pretty good argument from my point, but she debunked it all with her next statement...
"Well mom, I'm almost 20!"